Groom with a view
Coping with pre-wedding nerves is like taking a driver`s test - there are a lot of hair-raising moments before you get that precious piece of paper.
Women fantasize about their big day, drifting down the aisle in the dress of their dreams, a beatific smile pasted on their face... but when the shoe is fitted on the other foot, it would appear that being the proverbial Prince Charming is not an easy job.
How does any Grand Prix driver feel before a big race? Terrified! He`s got to negotiate hairpin bends and danger at every turn. And he dare not get one scratch on his Ferrari or his contract will be terminated. Eina!
So you see, the pressure is immense. While women prepare for this special day from virtually the moment they are born, we men are taught to dread it, to grudgingly accept it and then to do a complete about-turn on the issue once the question has been popped.
While marriage is often painted as a female plot to trap us men into monogamous servitude, there are too many pointers to the contrary. Married men live longer than single guys and single women seem to outlive their married sisters. Despite many people questioning the wisdom of this arrangement, it`s been happening for centuries.
To change from an average Joe Soap into an immaculate, well-spoken, dashing Prince Charming takes a bit of mental adjustment. My first brush with pre-marital angst started with what I was supposed to wear. I did not care what I wore, but I was determined to stand firm on the tie issue. I flatly refused to wear a tie.
The problem is that you`re not only compromising with the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with, you`re negotiating with her entire family. So you get to appreciate the adage `you can choose your friends but not your family.` Once the ring is on her finger, they`re your relatives. It`s a scary thought. But woe betide - one foot out of line and you become Public Enemy Number One.
In my view, a wedding is equivalent to passing your driver`s license. While you are learning to drive, you make many mistakes. You endure your parents yelling at you, you`ve got to explain the scratches on the side of the car, you break every rule in the book and you are a hazard on the road. Then by some twist of fate, you pass the test and drive home elated.
Surviving the wedding preparations is just like that driver`s test. Everyone`s waiting for you to make a mistake, you`re filled with a mixture of hope and terror... and with a sense of foreboding, you slowly inch the car forward - gradually gaining confidence.
When it`s all over and you`ve passed - you`re ecstatic. Either way, at the end of the day you still leave clutching a piece of paper, but your wedding certificate means you`ve just married your back-seat driver. Sorry, `co-pilot`. But as they say in ad-speak - "Life`s a journey, enjoy the ride...".
Just watch out for them potholes.
Article source: LifeWorld